A Tool to Utilize When We Find Ourselves Unhappy

Using Joining God in Taking Care of You when we get triggered because we feel judged, is so valuable! When we get triggered, our attitude changes because something happened that was not according to our desires. Meaning we didn’t get what we wanted, things didn’t go our way!

This tool is a great way to ask God to fulfill that negative feeling that flies up in our face. Then we have the opportunity to look at things from a healthy perspective versus a negative, possibly blaming reaction. It is very possible to work this all out with the Lord and avoid emotional damage between ourselves and another person.

Here’s an example from a friend of mine who regularly uses this tool of asking God to fulfill his negative emotions with the antonym of that current emotion.

As he was sweating, working overtime in the summer heat on the landscaping of his family’s new home, his wife came out of the house and asked when he was going to put the cement pad under the dog kennel. He almost exploded in exasperation! Couldn’t she see he was maxed out fitting the landscaping work in after long days at his job? He quickly excused himself to go the bathroom. There he turned to God, acknowledged his anger, because of his reaction, and asked God to fulfill his anger with love! Notice, he did not blame his wife for his anger, but owned it as his reaction. God answered his prayer and he was then able to go back and give his wife an answer, calmly and sanely, with love. She got her answer and never received any vitriol from him, praise God!

Please contact me if you would like help trying this tool. Remember I offer an initial FREE 30 minute coaching session.

Here is the Worksheet–

Joining God in Taking Care of You

What are you feeling?

I am feeling____________because I____________________________.

(Own your feeling without blame. As long as you’re a victim, you’re handing over to someone else the changes you want.)

What do you need?_____________ (Look for the opposite of what you are feeling, which directs you to the truth. The antonym of your emotion is your unmet need. THIS IS THE ATTRIBUTE YOU NEED!

Take your need to Jesus, our Shepherd. Ask Him to fulfill your negative feeling with the positive feeling you need. (He is there for you. Expect Him to show up!)

Again, please contact me if you would like to learn to utilize this tool for more joy and peace!